Changing old patterns
A common question I get asked is: “Do you offer couples therapy?” The answer is no. Not because I don’t believe couples therapy can be helpful—it absolutely can. When both people are committed to taking responsibility, communicating openly, and working towards change, it can transform a relationship. But over the years, I’ve noticed something. Many …
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“I promised myself I’d never date someone like my ex again.” It’s something I hear from clients all the time. Yet months later, they’re sitting in my therapy room describing someone new… and the story sounds painfully familiar. Maybe the new partner isn’t exactly the same person, but the emotional experience is. They’re emotionally unavailable. …
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For a long time, I was deeply codependent in friendships — even before I had the language for it. On the surface, I looked like a great friend. I was generous, thoughtful, reliable. I was the one who made the effort, remembered things, showed up, and took care of people. Underneath, though, I didn’t believe …
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When we look back on relationships, friendships, or family dynamics that hurt us, it’s so easy to feel ashamed. “How didn’t I see it?” “Why did I stay?” “Was I stupid?” If you’ve ever asked yourself these questions, you’re not alone — and you absolutely weren’t stupid. Ignoring red flags is a deeply human response, …
The Rescuer’s Heart Many of us who care deeply have a rescuer inside us. We see pain in others and want to make it better. We spot potential, we believe in people, and we feel a powerful urge to help them become who we know they can be. But sometimes, that beautiful instinct crosses into …
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Have you ever felt, deep down, that something is wrong with you—even if you can’t quite explain why? Maybe you blame yourself for things that weren’t your fault. Maybe you struggle to accept love or believe you deserve good things. Maybe no matter how hard you try, that nagging sense of “I’m bad” won’t go …
One of the most powerful acts of self-love and growth is healing your inner child. Not only does this work benefit your own emotional well-being, but it also transforms the way you parent, love, and connect with others—especially your own children. You may be surprised by how many of your day-to-day reactions stem from an …
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