Changing old patterns
Many of us walk into adulthood believing we’ve left childhood behind. We build careers, form relationships, make decisions, and navigate life with the assumption that we are operating from a fully grown, fully rational self. But beneath the surface, a younger part of us often remains active — the part that once felt scared, unseen, …
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There is a version of me that people see now — calm, grounded, put together. A therapist. Someone with boundaries, direction, and a strong sense of self. And that version of me is real. But it isn’t where I started. I’m aware that when you’re struggling — with addiction, codependency, the aftermath of abuse, or …
When love was shown but never said Many of us grew up knowing our parents loved us in practical ways — they provided food, shelter, and perhaps stability — yet they never said “I love you.” That silence can leave a quiet ache. As a trauma therapist working with people in addiction, recovery and codependency, …
When I support clients in therapy, one of the most powerful approaches I use is inner child work. Many people who come to me with struggles around trauma, addiction, or codependency often feel stuck in old patterns that no longer serve them. To help untangle these patterns, I draw on Transactional Analysis (TA), a therapeutic …
When I first began my own recovery from childhood trauma, one truth hit me harder than anything else — if I wanted to heal, I had to develop self-awareness. But becoming aware is not the soft, floaty thing Instagram quotes make it out to be. Awareness meant looking at some very uncomfortable truths about myself: …
Have you ever felt, deep down, that something is wrong with you—even if you can’t quite explain why? Maybe you blame yourself for things that weren’t your fault. Maybe you struggle to accept love or believe you deserve good things. Maybe no matter how hard you try, that nagging sense of “I’m bad” won’t go …
Many of us grew up hearing well-meaning phrases like “You can be anything you want,” or “You don’t need anyone to complete you.” But if we’re honest, those words didn’t always match the actions we witnessed. Maybe our parents said all the right things—but couldn’t live them. And whether we realised it or not, we …
Have you ever caught yourself thinking,“Why do I still feel like a child, even though I’m an adult?” You might be managing a home, raising kids, or holding down a responsible job, yet deep down there’s a sense of being small, lost, or not quite grown up. This experience is incredibly common, especially for people …
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What Is the Father Wound? The father wound is a deep emotional injury caused by a strained, neglectful, absent, or abusive relationship with one’s father or father figure. This wound often develops during childhood and adolescence, but its effects can linger well into adulthood—shaping your sense of identity, self-worth, and capacity for connection. Often unrecognised, …
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One of the most powerful acts of self-love and growth is healing your inner child. Not only does this work benefit your own emotional well-being, but it also transforms the way you parent, love, and connect with others—especially your own children. You may be surprised by how many of your day-to-day reactions stem from an …
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