Changing old patterns
One of the biggest misconceptions I hear about codependency is that you have to be dependent on another person. People hear the word and imagine someone who can’t leave a relationship, can’t cope without their partner, or relies on somebody else for everything. But that isn’t really what codependency means. You can be completely single …
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Have you ever found yourself constantly stepping in to solve someone else’s problems? Perhaps you lend money they never repay, make excuses for their behaviour, or put your own needs on hold to keep them afloat. If so, you’re not alone. Many people who struggle with codependency genuinely believe they’re being caring and supportive. But …
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Trauma affects far more people than we often realise—and its impact can shape every part of a person’s life, from relationships to emotional wellbeing, physical health, and the ability to feel safe in the world. Trauma-informed therapy is a compassionate, evidence-based approach designed to help individuals heal from past experiences in a way that feels …
You may have a mother wound if you were invalidated or made to feel that your weren’t important. If your feelings were ‘wrong’ or you were blamed for things you didn’t do. By your mother. If you weren’t allowed to ever express or explore negative emotions, this may result in chronic low self-esteem. Do you …
I used to be a people-pleaser. I didn’t trust my own judgement, so relied on others to tell me what to do. Ignoring red flags in people, trying to see the best in them. Which has got me into many dangerous situations, and stuck in a cycle of toxic friendships and abusive relationships. I …
How do you cope with whatever life throws at you? Coping is the ability to deal with difficult situations. Coping skills are the skills that we use to achieve this. It is, therefore, possible to describe a wide range of skills and activities as ‘coping skills’. It is also clear that some coping skills may …
Trauma and anxiety are closely linked. After experiencing a traumatic event, it’s natural to go through a range of negative emotions, including anger, fear, guilt, sadness, and confusion. Anxiety is also a common symptom of trauma, due to its role in our stress responses, also known as fight, flight, freeze, flop or fawn. Anxiety isn’t …
Abandonment trauma can stem from being left alone or neglected as a child either physically or emotionally. It can relate to the death of a parent, having your parents divorce, the loss of a partner or close friend, or finding out a partner has been unfaithful. Whether you experienced painful abandonment during your childhood or …
The vagus nerve is the longest nerve in our body, running from the brain stem to part of the colon, supplying both our organs and our brain with vital information. The word “vagus” means wandering in Latin, and the vagus nerve is a wandering cranial nerve that communicates to every organ in our body, especially …
Our autonomic nervous system, causes us to think, feel and behave in ways that are driven by unconscious patterns and generates automatic responses. The autonomic nervous system’s job is to keep us safe and alive. It is made up of 3 systems: • Sympathetic nervous system: This system activates body processes that help you …
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