Changing old patterns
When we look back on relationships, friendships, or family dynamics that hurt us, it’s so easy to feel ashamed. “How didn’t I see it?” “Why did I stay?” “Was I stupid?” If you’ve ever asked yourself these questions, you’re not alone — and you absolutely weren’t stupid. Ignoring red flags is a deeply human response, …
The Rescuer’s Heart Many of us who care deeply have a rescuer inside us. We see pain in others and want to make it better. We spot potential, we believe in people, and we feel a powerful urge to help them become who we know they can be. But sometimes, that beautiful instinct crosses into …
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The intense love you feel with a narcissist or when you are in a trauma bond, isn’t actually love. It’s infatuation. It’s addiction. And it is because you are revisiting/reenacting something you went through in childhood from your primary care giver/s. Subconsciously, we keep revisiting what we know, what is familiar. No matter how painful …