Changing old patterns
Supporting a partner who is caught in addiction can be heartbreaking, frightening, and deeply exhausting.When you’ve heard “I’ll change” again and again—yet nothing shifts—it’s completely understandable that you might reach for punishment, ultimatums, or control. Not because you’re trying to be harsh, but because you’re hurting and desperate for things to get better. Many partners …
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Many people who struggle with codependent behaviours describe a constant urge to rescue, fix, or manage others. If this sounds familiar, it’s important to know: these patterns are not a personal flaw. They are learned survival strategies developed in response to early emotional experiences. Understanding how childhood trauma shapes codependency is the first step toward …
When navigating the complexities of relationships—especially those touched by trauma, addiction, or emotional neglect—it can be hard to tell the difference between limerence and codependency. Both can feel intense, all-consuming, and deeply emotional, but they stem from very different roots. In this blog, we’ll explore the difference between limerence and codependency, how they show up …
Are you always putting your partner’s needs before your own? Do you feel responsible for someone else’s emotions or choices? If so, you may be experiencing codependency—an unhealthy relational pattern that can leave you feeling drained, anxious, or stuck. As a trauma-informed therapist based in Romford and Harold Wood, I support individuals who are struggling …
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