Changing old patterns
When my last toxic relationship ended, I didn’t go home. I stayed at a friend’s house because I simply couldn’t face being alone. That night, I lay in bed sobbing. Not crying in the way people often imagine after a breakup, but the kind of grief that feels like it’s tearing through your body. I …
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If you have ever wondered why some days you can cope with stress quite well, while on other days even a small comment, disagreement, or unexpected change feels overwhelming, your nervous system may hold the answer. The nervous system and the “window of tolerance” are deeply connected. Understanding this can help us make more sense …
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Many of us walk into adulthood believing we’ve left childhood behind. We build careers, form relationships, make decisions, and navigate life with the assumption that we are operating from a fully grown, fully rational self. But beneath the surface, a younger part of us often remains active — the part that once felt scared, unseen, …
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Are you always putting your partner’s needs before your own? Do you feel responsible for someone else’s emotions or choices? If so, you may be experiencing codependency—an unhealthy relational pattern that can leave you feeling drained, anxious, or stuck. As a trauma-informed therapist based in Romford and Harold Wood, I support individuals who are struggling …
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Are You Confusing Codependency with Love? At the beginning of a relationship, it’s easy to mistake emotional intensity for genuine connection, or constant reassurance for affection. But what if those overwhelming feelings aren’t love at all—what if they’re symptoms of codependency and a deep-seated fear of abandonment? Why Codependency Feels Like Love—But Isn’t 1. Emotional …