Changing old patterns
Many of us grew up hearing well-meaning phrases like “You can be anything you want,” or “You don’t need anyone to complete you.” But if we’re honest, those words didn’t always match the actions we witnessed. Maybe our parents said all the right things—but couldn’t live them. And whether we realised it or not, we …
Have you ever caught yourself thinking,“Why do I still feel like a child, even though I’m an adult?” You might be managing a home, raising kids, or holding down a responsible job, yet deep down there’s a sense of being small, lost, or not quite grown up. This experience is incredibly common, especially for people …
Continue reading “Why Do I Still Feel Like a Child? Understanding Emotional Stuckness in Adulthood”
What Is the Father Wound? The father wound is a deep emotional injury caused by a strained, neglectful, absent, or abusive relationship with one’s father or father figure. This wound often develops during childhood and adolescence, but its effects can linger well into adulthood—shaping your sense of identity, self-worth, and capacity for connection. Often unrecognised, …
Continue reading “Healing the Father Wound: Understanding the Root of Emotional Pain”
One of the most powerful acts of self-love and growth is healing your inner child. Not only does this work benefit your own emotional well-being, but it also transforms the way you parent, love, and connect with others—especially your own children. You may be surprised by how many of your day-to-day reactions stem from an …
Continue reading “Healing Your Inner Child: A Gift to Yourself and the Next Generation”
From the perspectives of psychologists like Jung and Freud, our choice of a life partner is significantly influenced by the formative experiences of our earliest years. As completely dependent children, our primary caregivers – and their inherent imperfections or strengths – left an indelible mark. Whether they were distant, overbearing, or even unkind, or consistently …
Continue reading “The Three Stages Of A Loving Relationship”
Typically when we think of addiction, we think of alcohol, drugs, sex, or gambling. Although not yet an official diagnosis, a more common, yet far less known form of addiction is an addiction to people. Research from 2016 suggested feelings of intense romantic love activate regions of the brain’s “reward system” — the same regions …
You may have a mother wound if you were invalidated or made to feel that your weren’t important. If your feelings were ‘wrong’ or you were blamed for things you didn’t do. By your mother. If you weren’t allowed to ever express or explore negative emotions, this may result in chronic low self-esteem. Do you …
I used to be a people-pleaser. I didn’t trust my own judgement, so relied on others to tell me what to do. Ignoring red flags in people, trying to see the best in them. Which has got me into many dangerous situations, and stuck in a cycle of toxic friendships and abusive relationships. I …
Abandonment trauma can stem from being left alone or neglected as a child either physically or emotionally. It can relate to the death of a parent, having your parents divorce, the loss of a partner or close friend, or finding out a partner has been unfaithful. Whether you experienced painful abandonment during your childhood or …
An emotionally unavailable person is typically seen as someone who has a fear or block to sharing their emotions, and feelings. They delay making plans, don’t really want a label to the relationship, can’t commit, are inconsistent, they lead you on, or worse. They can be emotionally abusing you (gaslighting, stonewalling, lying). They likely …
Continue reading “Do You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners?”