Using Fear to Change Behaviour Doesn’t Work—Because Children Cannot Learn When They Are Afraid

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  In classrooms, homes, and countless parenting books throughout history, fear has often been used as a tool to shape behaviour. Threats, punishments, raised voices, and harsh consequences are tactics many adults have relied on—often with the best intentions—to “teach a lesson.” But modern neuroscience and child psychology have made one truth increasingly clear: fear …

How Is Your Attachment Style Affecting Your Relationship?

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According to most psychological estimates, around 90-95% of our mental activity is considered subconscious, meaning only a small percentage (5-10%) is consciously accessible. Most of our daily decisions, habits, feelings, emotions and behaviours are driven by our subconscious mind. The subconscious stores a vast amount of information, including memories, beliefs, and learned patterns.  Which is …

How Do You Cope?

How Do You Cope?

How do you cope with whatever life throws at you? Coping is the ability to deal with difficult situations. Coping skills are the skills that we use to achieve this. It is, therefore, possible to describe a wide range of skills and activities as ‘coping skills’. It is also clear that some coping skills may …

What is self-regulation, and why is it important?

Self-regulation is how we cope with certain emotional behaviours and physical movements during stressful situations. Self-regulation is the skill that helps individuals stay focused and attentive during times of stress. Our ability to self-regulate as an adult has roots in our childhoods. Learning how to self-regulate is an important skill that children learn both for …