Changing old patterns
As parents, we often set out with the best intentions—to love unconditionally, to protect, and to guide our children through life’s complexities. However, even with the most loving motives, we may unconsciously pass on emotional patterns we inherited ourselves. One such pattern is codependency, a dynamic where self-worth becomes tied to meeting others’ needs, often …
Continue reading “Parenting Without Passing on Codependent Patterns”
If you’ve spent much of your life putting others’ needs before your own, saying “yes” when you really meant “no,” or feeling responsible for the emotions and actions of those around you—know that you’re not alone. Many people navigating codependency struggle with setting healthy boundaries. And even when they start to say “no” or speak …
Continue reading “Setting Boundaries Without Guilt: A Guide for Recovering Codependents”
Family relationships are some of the most complex and emotionally charged connections we have. When things go wrong—whether due to repeated conflicts, emotional neglect, betrayal, or abuse—many people face the painful decision of whether to reconnect or stay no contact with a family member. There’s no one-size-fits-all answer, but there are some key considerations that …
Continue reading “Reconnect or Stay No Contact? Navigating Difficult Family Relationships”
Are You Confusing Codependency with Love? At the beginning of a relationship, it’s easy to mistake emotional intensity for genuine connection, or constant reassurance for affection. But what if those overwhelming feelings aren’t love at all—what if they’re symptoms of codependency and a deep-seated fear of abandonment? Why Codependency Feels Like Love—But Isn’t 1. Emotional …
Addiction is a complex, multifaceted issue that impacts millions of individuals and families worldwide. While genetics, environment, trauma, and peer influence all play a role, one often under-discussed yet critical factor is parenting. The way a child is raised—the emotional tone of the household, the boundaries set (or not set), the way love is …
Continue reading “How Bad Parenting Can Contribute to Addiction: A Hard Look at Root Causes”
Not all toxic people come across as cruel or uncaring. Some genuinely love us and may even mean well. But that doesn’t mean their presence in our lives is healthy. Sometimes, it’s not about malice—it’s about misalignment. The way they live, what they ask of us, or what they take from us can force us …
If you grew up in a home with a parent who misused alcohol, drugs, or who suffered from codependency themselves, you’re probably familiar with the feeling of never knowing what to expect from one day to the next. When one or both parents struggle with addiction, the home environment is unpredictable. Arguments, inconsistency, unreliability, …
Continue reading “Adult Children Of Addicts or Codependents – The Laundry List”
I used to be a people-pleaser. I didn’t trust my own judgement, so relied on others to tell me what to do. Ignoring red flags in people, trying to see the best in them. Which has got me into many dangerous situations, and stuck in a cycle of toxic friendships and abusive relationships. I …
Growing up, I could always make friends easily. I was funny, popular, a fabulous raconteur, and the life and soul of every party. At school, I had girl friends arguing over who was going to sit next to me in class. I was one of the ‘cool’ kids who all the boys wanted to date. …
Continue reading “How Your Attachment Style (and trauma) Shows Up In Friendships”
As soon as we are born, life comes at us. We all need attachment, to survive, and if your parents or caregivers didn’t meet your emotional needs fully, you were abused, abandoned, or neglected, you will feel unworthy and unlovable deep down. You will learn behaviours to cope and to keep yourself as safe as …