Changing old patterns
Understanding Why We Lose Ourselves in Relationships—and How to Heal We all long for connection. But for some, relationships can feel like an emotional rollercoaster—full of giving, pleasing, fixing, and, too often, losing ourselves in the process. If you find yourself over-functioning in relationships, neglecting your own needs, or feeling responsible for other people’s emotions, …
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When it comes to healing, growing, or simply understanding ourselves and our relationships better, two words often come up in therapy: attachment and attunement. They sound similar—and they’re deeply connected—but they’re not the same. Knowing the difference can give you insight into why some relationships feel safe and fulfilling, while others might feel confusing, distant, …
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In a world that often feels chaotic and fast-paced, it’s easy to get swept away by trends, pressures, and distractions. But beneath the surface of our daily choices and long-term goals lies something deeply personal and profoundly influential: our values. What Are Values? Values are the core beliefs and principles that guide our decisions, behaviour, …
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Family relationships are some of the most complex and emotionally charged connections we have. When things go wrong—whether due to repeated conflicts, emotional neglect, betrayal, or abuse—many people face the painful decision of whether to reconnect or stay no contact with a family member. There’s no one-size-fits-all answer, but there are some key considerations that …
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From the perspectives of psychologists like Jung and Freud, our choice of a life partner is significantly influenced by the formative experiences of our earliest years. As completely dependent children, our primary caregivers – and their inherent imperfections or strengths – left an indelible mark. Whether they were distant, overbearing, or even unkind, or consistently …
Continue reading “The Three Stages Of A Loving Relationship”
As children, we are dependent on our caregivers. For food, love, safety, warmth and more. We learn to adapt our innate behaviour, in order to ensure our survival. One of the first ways that we adapt during times when we are hurting or lonely is to form an imagination that we are safe, and loved. …