Changing old patterns
Have you ever found yourself constantly stepping in to solve someone else’s problems? Perhaps you lend money they never repay, make excuses for their behaviour, or put your own needs on hold to keep them afloat. If so, you’re not alone. Many people who struggle with codependency genuinely believe they’re being caring and supportive. But …
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There is a version of me that people see now — calm, grounded, put together. A therapist. Someone with boundaries, direction, and a strong sense of self. And that version of me is real. But it isn’t where I started. I’m aware that when you’re struggling — with addiction, codependency, the aftermath of abuse, or …
How Fear, Obligation and Guilt Quietly Control Your Choices Have you ever said yes to something while every part of you wanted to say no? Or stayed in a situation that didn’t feel right, not because you wanted to — but because leaving felt too uncomfortable, too selfish, or too risky? If so, there’s a …
Codependency is a word that gets used a lot, but it can be hard to fully understand. At its core, codependency is about losing yourself in relationships – whether that’s with a partner, family member, or friend. People who struggle with codependency often put others’ needs before their own, feel responsible for other people’s emotions, …
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When I first began my own recovery from childhood trauma, one truth hit me harder than anything else — if I wanted to heal, I had to develop self-awareness. But becoming aware is not the soft, floaty thing Instagram quotes make it out to be. Awareness meant looking at some very uncomfortable truths about myself: …
When navigating the complexities of relationships—especially those touched by trauma, addiction, or emotional neglect—it can be hard to tell the difference between limerence and codependency. Both can feel intense, all-consuming, and deeply emotional, but they stem from very different roots. In this blog, we’ll explore the difference between limerence and codependency, how they show up …
Why relationships matter in healing from addiction When we think about addiction, it’s often framed as an individual struggle — a battle of willpower or a personal failing. But the reality is far more complex. Addiction doesn’t exist in a vacuum. It’s deeply shaped by our nervous systems, our past experiences, and most importantly, our …
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Shame is one of the most powerful—and often hidden—emotions that people face in addiction and recovery. It can keep us stuck in cycles of self-destructive behaviour, disconnected from ourselves and others. But understanding shame, and learning how to work through it, can be a crucial turning point in recovery. In this blog, I’ll explore what …
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Many of us grew up hearing well-meaning phrases like “You can be anything you want,” or “You don’t need anyone to complete you.” But if we’re honest, those words didn’t always match the actions we witnessed. Maybe our parents said all the right things—but couldn’t live them. And whether we realised it or not, we …
If you’ve ever found yourself feeling anxious in a relationship, constantly seeking reassurance, or withdrawing when things get too close, you’re not alone. These patterns often stem from our attachment styles, which are shaped early in life and show up again and again in our adult relationships. The good news? Healing is absolutely possible. With …
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