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Emotional maturity\u00a0is defined by the ability to manage our emotions and take full responsibility for our actions. Emotional immaturity can be the result of insecure attachments in childhood, unresolved trauma<\/a>, or mental health issues.<\/p>\n If you have problems communicating your needs, controlling your reactions, regulating your emotions, or are defensive and hyper-sensitive to criticism, you may be emotionally immature.<\/p>\n As children, we use certain coping mechanisms in an attempt to get our needs met. Tears, impulsive reactions<\/a>, temper tantrums. As we mature, ideally, these behaviours are replaced with more emotionally mature responses. But if, as a child, we weren’t taught to self soothe and regulate our emotions, had a lack of bonding or attachment with our primary caregivers, or suffered a trauma<\/a>, neglect, bullying or abuse, there can be a disruption to our emotional growth.<\/p>\n For example, a child who suffered abuse at the age of three, will feel ‘stuck’, having the perception of a small child, black and white thinking, and a feeling of powerlessness with regard to her affect on her environment.<\/p>\n Even lesser traumatic events can overwhelm your mind and body, causing problems in adulthood, with your relationships, friendships, career, and your sense of self.<\/p>\n Regressive behaviours can include:<\/p>\n Lack of assertiveness<\/p>\n Lack of strong boundaries<\/p>\n Temper tantrums<\/p>\n Rocking<\/p>\n Crying over minor events<\/p>\n Arguing with your child on their level as though you aren’t an adult<\/p>\n Inability to calm down and self-regulate<\/p>\n People Pleasing<\/a><\/p>\n Passive aggressive behaviour<\/p>\n Healing can help you become ‘unstuck’<\/strong><\/p>\n